A Letter to My Son: 10 Things I Want You to Know About Making an Impact

My son,

You are born during interesting times. In some ways, life on Earth has never been better – we are at the peak of innovation in science and technology, we have instant connectivity across the globe, literacy is at an all-time high and poverty an all-time low.  But, we still have many problems, and our future has never been more uncertain. You will likely live through many challenging times, and I hope you can contribute to some solutions.

Although the world has radically changed over the years, human nature fundamentally has not. That’s why I believe the lessons I share with you today will stay relevant in the future.

One. Many of the most complex problems are those that involve human beings: climate change and environmental degradation, economic inequality, discrimination, and more. Consequently, solutions to these problems are usually not black and white, but shades of grey. There is unlikely to be a definitive solution or an answer – there is no “silver bullet” – just a perpetual, gradual, hopefully, positive change. Don’t get discouraged if you can’t find a clear-cut answer to these problems. Incremental change is worth pursuing too.

Two. Directing energy toward your family, friends, and yourself is an important part of living a happy life. However, much of the elusive “happiness” actually comes not from chasing happiness, but rather focusing on feeling fulfilled. To derive long-term fulfillment, seek to make a positive contribution to society, even a small one.

Three. Do not chase money. Instead, look for ways to create value, solve important problems, and make other people’s lives better. Money will follow. 

Four. Time is your most precious asset. We never really know how much we will be given. Moreover, time goes by faster as you grow older (I had been told this before, but I didn’t start noticing it for myself until around the time I turned 30). Choose wisely what problems you want to spend your time solving. Not every problem needs a solution.

Five. Success, in all aspects of life, often requires taking risks. Taking risks is supposed to feel scary. If fear, self-doubt, or discomfort don’t creep into your head, consider whether the risks you are taking are big enough.   

Six. Everyone is playing the cards that they have been dealt. You didn’t choose the color of your skin, your family’s financial position, or the country you were born in, and no one else had these choices. Everyone is just trying to make the most out of the situation they are in. Practice empathy and understanding.

Seven. You are a by-product of the people that surround you. Be deliberate in choosing who those people are.

Eight. Find ways to empower and elevate the people around you. In doing so, you will in turn empower and elevate yourself.

Nine. Magnanimity is a powerful virtue. Your great-grandfather had it, and I hope together we can carry it through generations.

Ten. One person, as unlikely as it may seem, can change the world. You don’t have to be that person, but if you believe in what someone else is doing -- support them to the best of your abilities and wholeheartedly.

Love, 

Your Papa